Greetings friends!!! I pray the day is treating you well. As I enjoy a beautiful and sunny Sunday afternoon, I find myself thinking about the planet and the environment in which I live. I find myself thinking about the luxuries I enjoy everyday and the accessibility to those things I desire.
I am currently taking a class that has focused a great deal on the ability of a society to sustain itself and whether or not our actions of today will lead to a collapse of that society tomorrow. Examples have been given of other societies that have collapsed (i.e. Easter Island) but now in the final days of class, we are focused on our comsuption and irresponsible behavior in the U.S.
I have never been one for "Go Green". Not that I oppose recycling but I am truly a consumer. I leave lights on, the TV is on in more than one room, I don't unplug electronics while not in use. All of these things not because I am trying to destroy the environment, but because I never really thought that my attention to this detail would make a big difference.
As I educate myself however, I am learning that attention to these details will make a difference. I stopped buying bottled water and instead have my one water bottle that I refill everyday. I use my tote bags in Wal-Mart, Target and grocery stores instead of using the plastic bags they have at checkout. I am working on unplugging unused electronics....but will admit, I am not totally there yet. I truly believe educating yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself because it is through this that my eyes have opened a little more.
So what's the point of all of this.....well simply put, a little bit from everyone makes a difference. I am not becoming an environmentalist....at least not yet.....but I am becoming aware of what is going on around me and the role that I play in my environment. I also planted a garden.....a way to sustain myself and my family....my contribution to the bigger picture. Perhaps one day my consumption will decrease, I will depend on solar power, I will stop watching TV....or at least decrease the amount that I do. Until then I feel good knowing I made a start...took a few steps. My job now is to inform and educate my son. After all, it's my job to make sure the world he is left to live in is one worth having.
Find your mojo, know your role and educate yourself!!! Love you all!!!
Sunday, April 27, 2014
Friday, April 25, 2014
What's My Worth?
Greetings friends!!!! I pray the day is treating you well. My blog today is about worth. What is your worth, more importantly (as it pertains to this blog) a woman's worth.
As I searched Google for various articles, I came across one about Master P, his wife Sonya and their impending divorce. She is asking for 37% of his vast billion dollar fortune. Since their relationship began back in the day and Master P was simply a hustling man working his way to fame and fortune, a prenup was not signed. Now it seems Master P doesn't think his wife is deserving of the money she is asking for.
So my question to you is.....what's a woman's worth? Many women stand beside their man as he works hard to achieve the success he so deeply desires. So many of these relationships begin in high school, college, grad school etc. when he is another struggling Joe Blow working his way up the corporate ladder. It is during this time that a woman proves her value and shows how much faith she has in the man she loves. It is during this time that they may live together, marry and/or start a family. If he is in school, she may work so he doesn't have to and can focus on his studies. She may work and pay all the bills so he can focus on building a music career, start a business or have time to train and develop his athletic skills. It is during this time that she will be the encourager, motivator, sh*t taker, secretary, travel agent, life coach, business manager, study partner, housekeeper, solo child care provider and lover. It is during this time she may forgo her own ambitions and dreams so he can focus on his....sometimes with the promise of "next year baby, you can work on that" only to find that "next year" doesn't come.
Her hard work, determination and devotion is greatly rewarded when her man achieves his success. She is probably more proud than he because she was able to watch him work hard and grow into the man he has become. She knows her love and support never waivered and she stood beside him all this time.
The fairy tale is that they continue to grow together, she is able to achieve her goals and dreams too. They provide a life for their family that perhaps was never a reality for them as children. She is his right hand and his biggest cheerleader. He values her and everything she did for him so he could do what he needed to for himself, for her, their family and THEIR future. In the fairy tale, they grow old together and love each other until the day they die.
Sometimes the fairy tale is the reality but when it is not....then what? Are all the things that occurred up to that point null and void? Were her sacrifices in vain? During the rise of his success did she endure other hardships....cheating, left to raise a family alone, left in the shadows and left to tolerate all of it.....after all, she gave up her youth for him....there is no way she is walking away now.
At the moment when divorce seems inevitable, what is her worth then? Is she told..."you didn't make me....I made me". Is she left for a younger version of herself? Is she devalued by her children because they only see a "Mom" who stayed home while Dad worked....not the smart, savvy, resourceful woman she really is?
If the roles were reversed.....if men stayed home, played the supportive role while their girlfriend, wife, worked hard to achieve her dreams of becoming a pop star, CEO, doctor, lawyer, business owner....if after she gave birth, she went back to work and he stayed home with the kids, did her errands, took care of managing the family while she worked 15 hour days, only to end in divorce and told "you didn't make me, I made me....you aren't entitled to any of MY fortune", would he feel the same or say "okay...no problem....let me start my life over at 40, 50 or 60 years old". How we he feel? How would you feel?
I have an opinion on this matter and I have seen the above scenario play out in real life. I have seen the effects and understand the cause. A woman's worth can not be valued by a dollar amount because if she is a strong woman, who loves her family and loved her man.....the sacrifices she made are priceless. All I can say Master P and others who may feel the same.......if you take a look back over your life, look at the one who gave up herself for you, she would be entitled to part of the life she helped you build.
Unfortunately ladies.....we are often on the short end of the stick. Find your MOJO, build your life and never forget who you are.....the true being of your core is never gone, regardless of how much of her you think you gave away.
Love you all!!!
As I searched Google for various articles, I came across one about Master P, his wife Sonya and their impending divorce. She is asking for 37% of his vast billion dollar fortune. Since their relationship began back in the day and Master P was simply a hustling man working his way to fame and fortune, a prenup was not signed. Now it seems Master P doesn't think his wife is deserving of the money she is asking for.
So my question to you is.....what's a woman's worth? Many women stand beside their man as he works hard to achieve the success he so deeply desires. So many of these relationships begin in high school, college, grad school etc. when he is another struggling Joe Blow working his way up the corporate ladder. It is during this time that a woman proves her value and shows how much faith she has in the man she loves. It is during this time that they may live together, marry and/or start a family. If he is in school, she may work so he doesn't have to and can focus on his studies. She may work and pay all the bills so he can focus on building a music career, start a business or have time to train and develop his athletic skills. It is during this time that she will be the encourager, motivator, sh*t taker, secretary, travel agent, life coach, business manager, study partner, housekeeper, solo child care provider and lover. It is during this time she may forgo her own ambitions and dreams so he can focus on his....sometimes with the promise of "next year baby, you can work on that" only to find that "next year" doesn't come.
Her hard work, determination and devotion is greatly rewarded when her man achieves his success. She is probably more proud than he because she was able to watch him work hard and grow into the man he has become. She knows her love and support never waivered and she stood beside him all this time.
The fairy tale is that they continue to grow together, she is able to achieve her goals and dreams too. They provide a life for their family that perhaps was never a reality for them as children. She is his right hand and his biggest cheerleader. He values her and everything she did for him so he could do what he needed to for himself, for her, their family and THEIR future. In the fairy tale, they grow old together and love each other until the day they die.
Sometimes the fairy tale is the reality but when it is not....then what? Are all the things that occurred up to that point null and void? Were her sacrifices in vain? During the rise of his success did she endure other hardships....cheating, left to raise a family alone, left in the shadows and left to tolerate all of it.....after all, she gave up her youth for him....there is no way she is walking away now.
At the moment when divorce seems inevitable, what is her worth then? Is she told..."you didn't make me....I made me". Is she left for a younger version of herself? Is she devalued by her children because they only see a "Mom" who stayed home while Dad worked....not the smart, savvy, resourceful woman she really is?
If the roles were reversed.....if men stayed home, played the supportive role while their girlfriend, wife, worked hard to achieve her dreams of becoming a pop star, CEO, doctor, lawyer, business owner....if after she gave birth, she went back to work and he stayed home with the kids, did her errands, took care of managing the family while she worked 15 hour days, only to end in divorce and told "you didn't make me, I made me....you aren't entitled to any of MY fortune", would he feel the same or say "okay...no problem....let me start my life over at 40, 50 or 60 years old". How we he feel? How would you feel?
I have an opinion on this matter and I have seen the above scenario play out in real life. I have seen the effects and understand the cause. A woman's worth can not be valued by a dollar amount because if she is a strong woman, who loves her family and loved her man.....the sacrifices she made are priceless. All I can say Master P and others who may feel the same.......if you take a look back over your life, look at the one who gave up herself for you, she would be entitled to part of the life she helped you build.
Unfortunately ladies.....we are often on the short end of the stick. Find your MOJO, build your life and never forget who you are.....the true being of your core is never gone, regardless of how much of her you think you gave away.
Love you all!!!
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